One thing I love about boudoir is it can be done however you like. There isn't one way to do boudoir. You can be as innocent or as naughty as you want. Most people think boudoir is simply photos in a bra and panties, usually for a boyfriend or husband. Boudoir is so much more than that. Boudoir has become my favorite type of shoot to do because of how flexible it is. Because of what it could mean to the customer. Boudoir can be so powerful and many of us don't even realize it.
Boudoir is about so much more than just being sexy and romping around doing different poses in your underwear. Women choose to have their photos done in this style for more than just to show their significant other. Sometimes a boudoir shoot is done to celebrate yourself. Whether you just love yourself, just learned how to love yourself, celebrating your beauty, celebrating weight loss, building up your self-esteem or even giving yourself a treat after having kids. To me boudoir can be about re-introducing yourself to your beauty. Realizing how beautiful and powerful you are. Embracing your body and all its beauty and flaws along with it. Loving the skin you are in and being bold enough to almost bare your soul. It can mean finally loving you. Every wrinkle, stretch mark, every perfect imperfection. It can mean celebrating the woman you have become and welcoming the seductress inside you. Boudoir can mean whatever you want it to mean.
Boudoir photos make a nice gift for any type of event, not just Valentine's Day. Anniversaries, weddings, birthdays, or simply just because. For those that say, "I don't have a significant other." What about yourself? Do something for YOU! My very first boudoir session was done 3 months after I had my son. I was a first time mom and I felt so ugly and my whole body had changed from the pregnancy. I literally felt like my son stole all my beauty LOL. However, I got up the nerve to do a boudoir shoot and bare all the things I was insecure about and I loved it. My husband loved it too but it was honestly more for me than him. I needed to see my body and its beauty for myself again. I needed to see it so I could remember that I am STILL beautiful. Society seems to try make women feel like once they become mothers or wives, they need to cover up and nothing belongs to them anymore. Not even their bodies. No! ALL women, single, married, kids, no kids, young and old. We are all still beautiful and we have power. Let's embrace that and capture that!
As I said before, boudoir can be whatever you want it to be. It can be innocent with a big sweater and tights or a loose t-shirt and panties. Boudoir can also be daring with any type of lingerie or just going with nothing but a white sheet around you. Whatever your style, boudoir can fit you. It can adjust to your personality. You can show as little or as much as possible. You can have photos that focus on your bedroom eyes and shape or your curvy assets. You can have sweet airy sessions or hide in the dark shadows only revealing your silhouette. Boudoir can be such a thrilling escape into the woman that is truly you or you can pretend to be someone else altogether! Are you starting to see why I love it so much?
Whatever style of boudoir you choose to do, make sure it is something you are comfortable with and make sure you are being true to you. Make sure it is always done for the right reasons. Isn't it time that we as women stop complaining about everything on our bodies and finally just embrace them? Isn't it time we all just love ourselves? There are other styles of photography that can do this... but boudoir is so intimate. It is so soul searching in so many ways. Try is at least once in your life. Dare to find your beauty.